Same-sex couples are coming out for adoption…
One of the best gifts that one could give someone is ‘life’. You may not be God, but in the form of a parent, you could be his personification for a child. Like Sushmita Sen has shown, it’s not essential to be with someone to be a parent either. Being a parent may not be easy, but this call of eternal love and emotion comes from within. In the present day scenario, there has been a surge in the number of gay couples going through adoption agencies. Adoption sure is a tough decision, and so is the procedure. Even for a conventional couple, child adoption isn’t easy. After a formal application and an NOC from CARA (Central Adoption Resource Agency), the couple has to wait till the authorities find a child suitable to their expectations, and unlike the common belief, parents are not permitted to choose their baby. Adoption isn’t as difficult abroad as is it in India, but it’s nearly impossible to adopt here if you’re gay. Homosexuality has found legal acceptance and sex between gays is no longer a crime, but according to the Supreme Court ruling, there have been no comments as regards marriage rights between gay couples or their adoption rights.
It’ll be long before India opens up to the idea of gays getting married and thereafter adopting a child legally, but for those, for whom love knows no boundaries, such beautiful relationships already exist. “I just got my son married to a girl. I found him on the Bandra Station when he was 13-years old. I raised him and supported him to be able to earn his bread. No one taught me how to be a mother, but I knew it... it is a feeling which comes from within. My partner and I never feel that we are incompetent as parents,” says Mr. Girish Kumar a.k.a. ‘Nihsa’, who lives with his partner Mr. Praveen Sharma. Just like all parents, even gay couples assume roles within a family. One assumes the role of the father and the other, that of a mother. All these feelings come to them very naturally. A child strives for love, care, tenderness and optimum support and guidance. These aspects of one’s life are not subject to sex, and can be fulfilled by anyone who feels for it in the right manner.
Greater acceptance towards gays has been observed in the recent past, but addressing the narrow-minded and editing the age-old laws is what is of utmost importance. “Our organisation, along with various activists is also trying to push for gay rights and strongly feels that the masses welcome them with open arms and minds,” says Mr. Girish Kumar, Project Director, The Humsafar Trust. It is the society which makes one feel uncomfortable in certain situations. It largely depends on us to make life simpler for others.
Emotional Quotient is an essential ingredient of parenting. Hence, as far as gay couples are concerned, it could be said that they may have higher sensibilities as regards emotional support and understanding. In a world full of prejudices, it is essential we take our first step towards creating a society where every person is treated with respect. After all, bringing a smile on a child’s face is what really matters at the end...
One of the best gifts that one could give someone is ‘life’. You may not be God, but in the form of a parent, you could be his personification for a child. Like Sushmita Sen has shown, it’s not essential to be with someone to be a parent either. Being a parent may not be easy, but this call of eternal love and emotion comes from within. In the present day scenario, there has been a surge in the number of gay couples going through adoption agencies. Adoption sure is a tough decision, and so is the procedure. Even for a conventional couple, child adoption isn’t easy. After a formal application and an NOC from CARA (Central Adoption Resource Agency), the couple has to wait till the authorities find a child suitable to their expectations, and unlike the common belief, parents are not permitted to choose their baby. Adoption isn’t as difficult abroad as is it in India, but it’s nearly impossible to adopt here if you’re gay. Homosexuality has found legal acceptance and sex between gays is no longer a crime, but according to the Supreme Court ruling, there have been no comments as regards marriage rights between gay couples or their adoption rights.
It’ll be long before India opens up to the idea of gays getting married and thereafter adopting a child legally, but for those, for whom love knows no boundaries, such beautiful relationships already exist. “I just got my son married to a girl. I found him on the Bandra Station when he was 13-years old. I raised him and supported him to be able to earn his bread. No one taught me how to be a mother, but I knew it... it is a feeling which comes from within. My partner and I never feel that we are incompetent as parents,” says Mr. Girish Kumar a.k.a. ‘Nihsa’, who lives with his partner Mr. Praveen Sharma. Just like all parents, even gay couples assume roles within a family. One assumes the role of the father and the other, that of a mother. All these feelings come to them very naturally. A child strives for love, care, tenderness and optimum support and guidance. These aspects of one’s life are not subject to sex, and can be fulfilled by anyone who feels for it in the right manner.
Greater acceptance towards gays has been observed in the recent past, but addressing the narrow-minded and editing the age-old laws is what is of utmost importance. “Our organisation, along with various activists is also trying to push for gay rights and strongly feels that the masses welcome them with open arms and minds,” says Mr. Girish Kumar, Project Director, The Humsafar Trust. It is the society which makes one feel uncomfortable in certain situations. It largely depends on us to make life simpler for others.
Emotional Quotient is an essential ingredient of parenting. Hence, as far as gay couples are concerned, it could be said that they may have higher sensibilities as regards emotional support and understanding. In a world full of prejudices, it is essential we take our first step towards creating a society where every person is treated with respect. After all, bringing a smile on a child’s face is what really matters at the end...
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